Arguments happen.
When they do, you want to be a good arguer. Are you good? Do you have made arguing skills?
Many people would say yes, they have excellent arguing skills. They would then say that the secret to being a good arguer is knowing how to turn a phrase and “win” your point.
Of course, many people are morons.
The secret to being a good arguer is this: know how to end the argument. And to do this well, you need to memorize this axiom I just made up:
Winning an argument rarely ends one.
To truly end an argument, you need to know how to get out of it with everyone saving face.
“But Jase, just so you know, I don’t care if the d-bag I’m arguing with ‘saves face!’”
Good. If that’s how you feel, stop reading now; you’re not ready for this post.
For everyone else, here is the simple yet challenging piece of practical advice that will help you become a master arguer:
Imagine running into the person you’re arguing with on the street (or in the hall) tomorrow, and both of you smiling and waving at each other.
Or at least, with yourself smiling and waving. I’m talking a genuine smile here—not a sneer, nor one of those, “Hmmpf… at least one of us is taking the high road” smiles that could flash-freeze a meatloaf.
Unless you’ve got solid self-awareness (which, despite what you think, you probably don’t), that one visual is the most important thing you can take into an argument with you.
Because the thing is, you’re smart. You already know how to end an argument (take the emotion out of it; don’t take things personally; address common points of interest; use power sparingly and only to bring the other person back to the table; walk away when things get too heated; etc.), but the problem is that what you know goes out the window when you get angry or frustrated.
Picturing the next time you are going to see the person, and imagining yourself being happy and care-free during that interaction, will help you prevent your emotions from getting the best of you, which in turn will keep your mind flexible enough to remember all that good stuff it already knows.
So now, armed with this knowledge, go out there, and avoid an argument!
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Jason, this is a great advice. For me it’s easy to win an argument at work I don’t get too heated up and don’t take it as personally. But when it’s with my child or people I care about that’s when all the theories go out to the door. I like your advice about visualizing the next day (hour, moment, etc) with that person, this seems to be practical. But of course when it comes to the family we all know that next day we’ll smile anyway but at the moment of the argument most of us want to win our point. I think we still need to smile at that point and leave the “argument” for later, I mean leave the purpose of the argument for later and discuss it when not so heated up. Again, thanks!