Sometimes, you get offered a promotion but it’s not for you. Before you say no, consider this: How would you feel if you asked someone to marry you and they said, “No”? Maybe a little hurt? Betrayed? Confused about how could be so mistaken in your understanding of the relationship? Assuming the relationship continues, how [...]
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OK, so this post was originally targeted at HR folks… but people from many other groups within organizations—including programming, marketing, and finance—have reached out today to me to say, “Right on!” or, “I wanna steal that piece!” or, “Hey, man, you forgot about us!” So let’s fix that. Below, you’ll find the post you love, [...]
Wouldn’t That Be Great?! No. Actually, it would suck. For instance: Imagine planning a party. Nay; a wedding. The groom-to-be’s mother asks the bride-to-be if she’s picked out the dress yet. Bound to tell the truth, she answers, “No.” To which the mom replies, “Great! I have a close friend who’s a famous designer, and [...]
Two years ago, I posted my rules for giving feedback. I did this because I noticed that most people are awful at it. A year ago, I reposted them. Why? Because I had looked around and noticed that people were still awful at it. Guess what? As part of this week’s series on feedback, it’s [...]
Of the following, which do you think is the biggest risk to your career? Getting critical feedback. Not getting critical feedback. Giving critical feedback. The answer, perhaps surprisingly, is #3. Getting critical feedback stings like mad, but gives you exactly what you need to know in order to “get it right” next time. Not getting [...]
This week, I am running a series of posts on influence as a follow up to a session on influence at HRevolution 2010. It’s interesting to me to read the comments and emails I’ve gotten this week about these posts on influence; there is definitely a line in the sand out there, with pragmatists who [...]
This week, I am running a series of posts on influence as a follow up to a session on influence at HRevolution 2010. Influence. It’s not motivation, it’s not polite, and it’s not pretty. Influence means getting someone who is already engaged in doing something to follow you instead, and assumes that the person is [...]
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