Comments on: Watch Your Tone http://jasonseiden.com/watch-your-tone/ My Blog is Profersonal™. Mon, 21 May 2012 18:04:01 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.4 By: Jason Seiden http://jasonseiden.com/watch-your-tone/comment-page-1/#comment-8261 Jason Seiden Fri, 30 Jul 2010 15:53:59 +0000 http://jasonseiden.com/?p=4906#comment-8261 @Roger—how many times have we been in a "discussion" and stayed there, long after the point has been agreed or conceded, simply because the tone we were using kept the other person enraged?! @Roger—how many times have we been in a “discussion” and stayed there, long after the point has been agreed or conceded, simply because the tone we were using kept the other person enraged?!

]]> By: Roger Allied Time http://jasonseiden.com/watch-your-tone/comment-page-1/#comment-8243 Roger Allied Time Tue, 27 Jul 2010 19:48:55 +0000 http://jasonseiden.com/?p=4906#comment-8243 A persons tone can really make or break a conversation. Sometimes just taking a step back to reevaluate the situation can really help. Also, if tones and tempers rise, it is easy to get off track of what the true point of the conversation was. By controlling your tone both in and out of the office can make people feel more comfortable talking to you and possibly even more productive. Great post! A persons tone can really make or break a conversation. Sometimes just taking a step back to reevaluate the situation can really help. Also, if tones and tempers rise, it is easy to get off track of what the true point of the conversation was. By controlling your tone both in and out of the office can make people feel more comfortable talking to you and possibly even more productive. Great post!

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]]> By: Jason Seiden http://jasonseiden.com/watch-your-tone/comment-page-1/#comment-8240 Jason Seiden Mon, 26 Jul 2010 12:19:33 +0000 http://jasonseiden.com/?p=4906#comment-8240 @Jennifer—That's great advice. Eventually, you'll discover that many of those emotions that pass across your face are either reactions to, or reflections of, the emotions you feel coming at you from others. But getting ahead of them can be incredibly difficult. Potential interim goal: Rather than focus on being completely present (welcome to the rest of your life), focus on one element of each situation. For instance: take note of what people are wearing/what color cars they drive. Or, look for patterns in the way people wear their hair. Then add something else, like people's tendency to wear jewelry, or similarities in hand motions. Keep adding observations one at a time. And one more thing: keep a journal... it'll help! @Jennifer—That’s great advice. Eventually, you’ll discover that many of those emotions that pass across your face are either reactions to, or reflections of, the emotions you feel coming at you from others. But getting ahead of them can be incredibly difficult.

Potential interim goal: Rather than focus on being completely present (welcome to the rest of your life), focus on one element of each situation. For instance: take note of what people are wearing/what color cars they drive. Or, look for patterns in the way people wear their hair. Then add something else, like people’s tendency to wear jewelry, or similarities in hand motions. Keep adding observations one at a time.

And one more thing: keep a journal… it’ll help!

]]> By: Jennifer http://jasonseiden.com/watch-your-tone/comment-page-1/#comment-8238 Jennifer Mon, 26 Jul 2010 12:02:13 +0000 http://jasonseiden.com/?p=4906#comment-8238 Great post - so true. This is something that I'm actively trying to improve. It's hard. Even when I can control my tone, I'm an open book and my facial expressions often betray my true feelings. The best advice that I've gotten to date (from a personal coach), is to practice being present. Focus on what the other person is feeling (in addition to what they are saying) and reflect that back to them, pay attention to the colors and noises on your way to work, scan the room to take in others' reactions or body language. Essentially, take a break from multi-tasking and throw yourself into what you are doing in that moment. It's harder than it sounds. By doing this, I keep my mind busy so that I don't have so much time to think ahead and plan my response, I'm focusing on what's going on instead of reviewing my to-do list at the same time as listening to someone else, and I'm forcing myself to listen to everything before really reacting. I'm starting small - 15 minute increments - so as not to overwhelm myself. The jury is still out as to how it works for me, but it seems to make sense since part of my problem is processing things more quickly than the average person. I'm interested to see if anyone else has good tips/tricks that have worked for them! Great post – so true. This is something that I’m actively trying to improve. It’s hard. Even when I can control my tone, I’m an open book and my facial expressions often betray my true feelings. The best advice that I’ve gotten to date (from a personal coach), is to practice being present. Focus on what the other person is feeling (in addition to what they are saying) and reflect that back to them, pay attention to the colors and noises on your way to work, scan the room to take in others’ reactions or body language. Essentially, take a break from multi-tasking and throw yourself into what you are doing in that moment. It’s harder than it sounds. By doing this, I keep my mind busy so that I don’t have so much time to think ahead and plan my response, I’m focusing on what’s going on instead of reviewing my to-do list at the same time as listening to someone else, and I’m forcing myself to listen to everything before really reacting. I’m starting small – 15 minute increments – so as not to overwhelm myself. The jury is still out as to how it works for me, but it seems to make sense since part of my problem is processing things more quickly than the average person. I’m interested to see if anyone else has good tips/tricks that have worked for them!

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